Jay is an Empowerment Strategist, speaker, and Founder of Mind-Worthy.com who specializes in neuroscience and psychology of mental health. She utilizes a unique blend of psychotherapies, coaching, neuroscience, and mindfulness to mobilize people's strengths and resources (through education and role play).
Jay left a highly successful career in the investment management industry and is now a passionate advocate of the skills and strategies of Empowered Living. She has taken up invitations to speak at various organizations, including Google and Amazon. Jay has exclusively shared top proven strategies to use in 2020 for managing negative emotions and becoming more self-aware of pessimistic thoughts during rocky times...
Well hasn’t 2020 handed us a real curve ball, with unprecedented circumstances turning all our lives upside down! Being caught alone during such a time can be a terrifying experience for most people. The time and space that is available to you during self-isolation can work wonders for your creative drive and can bring life-changing benefits to you. As history has shown us time and again, humanity’s greatest strength is how it creates, survives, and prospers during the worst of times. If you take this time to truly get to know yourself, get to know your passions, your aspirations, your longings, your ideas, the self-isolation will pass by in no time. And the results will be more than worth it. With that said, I thought I would share my top tips on how we can truly use this time to empower ourselves and emerge at the end of this tunnel (and we will emerge!), with a deeper understanding that there is a magnificent opportunity for us to seize which will forever forge a healthier relationship with ourselves and loved ones.
So here’s how we can stay mentally strong...
1. Focus on your strengths (not your fears!)
Our brains right now are highly sensitive to what we could lose (or what could
go wrong) than they are to what could be gained (or what could go right!). Fear has a way of hijacking rational thinking, driving us to terrorize ourselves with horror images that, in reality, are very unlikely, if not outright implausible. The more anxious the climate, the more deliberate you need to be to reset your attention towards the positive outcomes you want to create rather than fretting about all you don’t. So, if we want to experience positivity, we should follow the thoughts that conduce to those qualities, and leave the others aside. And, amazingly, modern neuroscientific studies on the brain’s plasticity have confirmed this.
2. Speak calmly (and avoid melodramatic language)
Our words create our reality. If you start describing a situation with Armageddon-like language that’s exactly how your body and mind will experience it. This isn’t about denying unpleasant realities and downplaying legitimate dangers. It simply means that you don’t talk them up. When you use language that implies that you trust yourself to meet your challenges as they arise, you not only spare yourself a lot of stress, you also spare others by not spreading it.
3. Stay away from fear-mongers (or dial your engagement right down)
Fear fuels fear. If you’re continually engaging in conversations with anxious people who are absorbed in fear-casting and catastrophizing, you’ll find it hard not to let their anxieties become your own. While it’s important to avoid negative energy-draining people at the best of times, when fear is running amok, it’s even more critical. So just as you try to minimize exposure to viruses, you also need to minimize exposure to people who fuel stress. And if you’re in a WhatsApp chat group with up to the minute doomsday warnings, do yourself a favor and get out of it ASAP!
4. Boost empowering practices
The best safeguard against any virus is a strong immune system. There are very few things that compromise our immune system more than stress. So, when fear sets in, the best thing to do for your well being is practice activities that help you 'de-stress', feel stronger, and handle your challenges better. The obvious ones, which I know have been drummed into us already, are; Exercise. Eat well. Get sleep. Meditate. Journal. Get out in nature (well for the one daily exercise that we are permitted). Prioritize your schedule. Basically, do more of whatever activities rebalance, recharge, and reset your headspace. Many people may also lean on you for support and reassurance, so it is vital that you recharge and ground yourself first (i.e. put on your oxygen mask before helping others).
5. Join a cause
There are strength and solidarity in numbers. Joining a cause heightens your power because you share and receive potent energy in group efforts. What one person lacks another person has, and this makes a group energetically complete. Work with others towards a goal you all believe in and become involved in bringing about the change you want to see.
In summary, it is by taking a few deep long breaths, then taking calm decisive action in the presence of our fear that we dilute its power, and amplify your own strengths. It is times like these that each of us is called upon to reel in our fears and start leading the change we’d like to see in those around us.
Finally, let us remember, positivity and courage are contagious too!
Empowerment Strategist, speaker, and Founder of www.mind-worthy.com